This post is WAY overdue. But that’s because things have been busy. In a really good way. There are only a few things about Teegan’s birth that resemble Mila’s, otherwise, it was entirely different.
As for the similarities– Both times my labor started with my water breaking (this only happens in about 10% of births), and both times I had pre-term labor around 31 weeks but they were born term babies (Mila was born at 37 weeks + 2 days and Teegan was born at 37 weeks + 3 days). Other than that, they were entirely different.
I was really hoping to have another natural birth with Teegan like I did with Mila, but unfortunately he had other plans for me. Teegan was persistently breech during the entire pregnancy, which meant a c-section for me. I had ultrasounds at every visit (since I was in the high risk ob clinic) and he never budged from his position. He was always head up and his head was always on the right side of my belly (it truly felt like a big, giant baseball). One week before he was born they attempted to do an external version, which was unfortunately unsuccessful. I was hopeful he would still turn on his own, but he apparently wasn’t on board with that plan.
My doula told me that many women seemed to go into labor at times that worked for them which seems like a biological protective mechanism. She used the example of a woman not going into labor until her other kids were out of the house (at preschool or with grandma) and mom could actually focus on laboring baby-to-be. This made so much sense to me and I think that is exactly what happened with Teegan. I was really hoping to make it through Thanksgiving and also was hoping I would go into labor when my OB was on call (so she could be the one to do my c-section).
We had a lovely Thanksgiving at our house (with a tofurkey and fancy, disposable plates and cutlery) and that night when I went to bed I was very thankful we had been able to enjoy the holiday. I joked that my OB was on call that night so it wouldn’t be a horrible night to have a baby. Then, at 4AM my water broke. Since Teegan was breech and they needed to do an urgent c-section, we weren’t able to labor at home, and instead had to rush to the hospital.
The c-section went flawlessly, without complications (and I was fortunate that my OB really was on call and able to do my c-scection). Unfortunately I felt extremely sleepy during the procedure because there was morphine in the spinal so I didn’t feel as present as I was when Mila was born. Luckily Jake took pictures.
Teegan was perfect at birth. He weighed 6 lbs, 10 oz. He latched on without any trouble. And about 3 days later we came home with our new little man. And now we’re a family of four.
Oh, and how did we pick Teegan for his name? The week before he was born, on our way home from the external version, we drove past the Hollywood Palladium Theater and saw the band Tegan and Sara on the marquee. I wondered if Tegan could be a male name. We looked it up and saw that it is about 50/50 with multiple spellings. Immediately we knew that it was perfect when we found out it means “Little Poet” since our little guy had been writing his own story during the entire pregnancy.
Welcome to our family, Teegan.
(I have several other posts to come… somehow I have managed to start and finish a baby quilt since he was born 6 weeks ago).