Officially Incubating

25 Weeks

I’m 25 weeks pregnant and am officially incubating full time. This pregnancy started out pretty low key. I hardly had any morning sickness (as compared to little Miss Mila), which is how I actually knew we were going to have a boy this time– always trust a mama’s intuition! Near the end of my first trimester my ob actually said to me, “You’re acting like a normal pregnancy”. It was one of the best things I could have heard.

But not too long after that, my lupus decided to start acting up. I started getting pericarditis (inflammation of the lining of my heart that causes chest pain), joint pains, mouth ulcers, fatigue and even started losing my hair (hey! you’re not supposed to lose your hair during pregnancy!).  So, I started taking high doses of prednisone. But after a month, things weren’t calming down. So back comes the azathioprine. I was less scared about adding all of these “don’t take during pregnancy” drugs this pregnancy since I took them while pregnant with Mila, but still definitely nervous about the fact it meant that my lupus was active. Second trimester miscarriages are much more likely with lupus, and pre-term labor is also very common with up to 50% of lupus babies being born prematurely. With Mila I went into pre-term labor in the middle of a morning clinic at 31 weeks pregnant. Luckily they were able to stop the labor and I went home on rest and she stayed in to grow until 37 weeks.

For the last month my ob has been suggesting I take a break from work and I have been resistant. I kept asking for a few more weeks to see if things would get better. But they weren’t getting better and I haven’t been able to decrease my medications. I was so exhausted. So, this week at my appointment, I agreed to make growing our little boy my full time job.